EMOTICON

 Have you ever observed, that there are a set of few emoticons you use while chatting? 

WhatsApp has in total 3,136 emoticons/pictograms, and yet we barely use 10-15 emoticons on a daily basis. Have you wondered why so?  (food for thought)

It may seem similar to our emotional construct.

Many a times we have been on the receiving end or even been the one to say'

" You made me do this/ You made me feel this/ I felt so cause you did that..."

So on and so forth.

So my question is, Are we solely responsible for our own emotions and feelings?

Do we really get influenced due to the person/event/ situation in question?

Physiologically, our emotions are regulated by a particular system in brain known as the Limbic System.

But, our emotions are actually born from our own interpretations. 

Our own belief or expectations of a person/situation or event gives rise to our feelings and when it is not in tune or completely opposite from our interpretation or perception of that particular person/situation/event is when we feel helpless about our feelings and emotions.

So technically, yes only and solely we are responsible for WHAT we feel. No one can make us FEEL something we do not wish to feel. 

Then how come we get easily pissed off by our boss or angry cause our parents expressed something, or sad cause someone did not feel as we felt?

I think its cause we already imagine an outcome, we already perceive that particular situation to be in a certain manner and when that glass named perception hits the floor and breaks, we get hurt by those very shards of glass. We bleed. 

Our very own personal interpretation and perception of what all we experience or face is the real root cause of the statement " i felt so cause you did..." (and not the response of the other person)

So then what is the solution?

Learn to be the boss of your own feelings.

Learn to identify your own perceptions and interpretation of things and you will realize how much of an entire new universe exists in your own head on its own.

Be open to have new and different perceptions that others have.

The best person to start changing is you yourself.

Because believe it or not, only you are responsible for your own feelings... the sooner you understand the better you will be.😊

Gift Wrap

Packaging.

Its one of the most important aspect of a product that needs to be marketed.

A huge amount of time, money and brainpower goes into coming up with the most attractive, innovative, and eye-catching packaging. 

So is the case with Humans.

Remember that time when we all had crush on the handsome Tom Cruise or Keanu Reeves, or Angelina Jolie? (the list goes on...)

We all get attracted to the amazing packaging. All beautiful exteriors. The gift wrapping.

I am not saying its bad. But it shouldn't be the ONLY thing that you want.

Turning heads, attracting eyes and attention is great

but turning and attracting hearts... that's RARE!

When you receive a gift, sure the packaging is something that tugs your interest, but what tugs your heart is what's inside the wrapping: the GIFT.

We spend more than enough time in selecting a gift for someone, and rarely are we worried about the wrapping. Many a times we have received hastily wrapped gifts, or even unwrapped gifts, and yet we were always moved/touched by the gesture and thought and idea put into selecting the gift. We go for 'gift shopping' and not 'gift-wrapper shopping'.

And while we always eat right and exercise 45mins a day and buy the best of clothes and undergo the best of skin routines. 

Lets also examine the gift inside the wrapping.

Our personalities, our perspectives, our principles.

Defining who we are, and redefining who we wish to be.

Cause no matter how great or amazing the gift wrapping is, its the gift that actually matters. 

Suicide Bomber

There are certain gruesome, unimaginable and unprecedented events, that invokes the humanity in humans at times. And the news of suicide is one of them.

Off- lately the shift of  focus on mental health, and the awareness about it, has brought a change of wave in every aspect of human life. Where at times, its even exploited to its maximum ability and yet, the fact remains that : IT IS IMPORTANT.

The more important question that still remains unexplored and unanswered and if i dare say, still remains unaware to most of us is that, why do we react strongly to just physical death? Do we ever look around and find, so many of us committing suicide mentally or emotionally on minuscule scale in our day-to-day lives? 

The moment(s) we deny ourselves of our deepest desires and dreams, the moment(s) that just become monotonous and routine,as we lose our hope in finding something new and exciting every single day.

How many times have we killed ourselves? Maybe for someone (emotionally) or killed ourselves (mentally)?

We are our own suicide bombers. We just dont kill ourselves  but with us, we kill/injure the others around us. 

Even though we have a thousand captions here and a million stories on social media about how beautiful and courageous it is to NOT conform to the pre-set conventional standards,more often than not we unconsciously find ourselves following and maybe even promoting them through our actions and our judgements.

A remark here! a joke there!... 

C'mon learn to take a joke sportingly!

It was just a bit of fun! Chill!

We are suicide bombers.Everyone of us.

We just dont kill ourselves, we do it to others as well.

So Stop. Evaluate. and rectify.

Identify the places where you have committed suicide within yourself. Some would definitely be necessary but the ones that were a victim of outdated thoughts,evaluate them.

At the end of the day, sit and think. Whether you were a suicide bomber or a CPR?

 

Mega Clearance Sale!!!

 ATTENTION ALL! 

It's the season to be jolly!

Thus we are presenting a M. E. G. A. Clearance Sale! 

Let's clear our hearts and minds with past regrets, sorrows, hurt and pain!

Up to 75% off (we need to keep the lessons we learnt for future reference😉) 

So what are you waiting for?!?! 

Please do hurry up, cause we have an abundance of stock and we need to clear it ASAP! 

IF you are lucky, you may even get freebies, (getting rid of utterly useless experiences that never even taught us a lesson, but just is pure garbage!). 

So sit tight and get your hold on as many things as possible and be a part of this amazing and out of this galaxy M. E. G.A. Clearance Sale! 

Offer valid till stock lasts😅

Midnight Musings

 That time of the day (well actually night), when all you want to do is, rewind all the moments of your life and get hopelessly sad to the point of despair. 

The hour where you get face to face with all your mistakes, your flaws, your hurt and wounds and when you choose to suffer in your pain. 

That minute where the sheer thought of being your own-self disgusts you to the point of self-depreciation. 

The question is: WHY DO WE DO THIS TO OURSELVES? 

What sort of twisted sense of joy or fulfillment do we achieve by doing so? 

Why do we torture ourselves so much in the middle of the night? 

All our regressive emotions just never seem to disappear. They are like pimples on our faces: we never know when will we get them, we cannot pop them open ( but we all are guilty of doing so, for both - pimples and midnight musings), they leave scars, and yet... YET they still magically reappear at the most convenient (read: ridiculously inconvenient) time of our lives. 

As children we knew about the monsters under our beds... 

                 ..... As adults they reside in our heads... 

Sometimes we have a more intimate and deeper relationship with our monsters than ourselves. 

Sometimes we believe every damn thing we think, especially about ourselves... 

So then how do we stop from the thought pimple to form on the skin of our mind? 

Simple! 

The same way we prevent it on our skin. 

Exfoliate! 

Keep your brain clean. Get rid of thoughts and actions (and people and environment) that 'clog your pores'  Exfoliate the shit out of it (well not literally though 😬) 

Heal. Heal. Heal. 

Every day. 

Every moment. 

Even when you don't want, in fact especially when you don't want to. 

It's not gonna be easy and it's gonna get hard.

It's hard to manage having a thought pimple and it's equally hard to keep working in order to prevent it. 

Choose your hard wisely! (And consistently). 

 Cafe Caffeine 

Coffee.

Tea.

Hot Chocolate.

Soda.

Every single human being on this planet, has been a fan of either of the above beverages. Even before we know it, we all have been addicted to some form of Caffeine.

Work becomes a bit more tolerable when we have had our first (on bad days even second) cup of caffeine. This austere chemical, makes everything seem so much better.

It makes me wonder, can we have other things acting as caffeine as well?

Like maybe a compliment from a stranger about something even we might not notice in ourselves?

Or like the laughter of a baby, that just awakens the child in us?

Every human interaction thus becomes ,what i'd like to term as " Cafe Caffeine".

every touch. every word. every smile.every hug.

The beauty of this Cafe Caffeine is that, unlike the caffeine beverages, which  produces stimulating effects, this unique Cafe has the power to produce a depressing effect!

Human interactions are such complex phenomenon! What one might be going through and what may trigger someone, might make someone else fall in love with you! As different as every DNA is of each human, so are their ability and perception to understand, and yet it makes us all one.

So whats the whole point of all this gyan?

  The point i am desperately trying to make is that, : 

YOUR. ACTIONS. CAUSES. RIPPLES. YOU.CANNOT. IMAGINE.

Be very mindful of what you say and how you behave.

Maybe for you it would just be " i was being honest" but there are truths greater than honesty and there are more important things than always being blatantly honest. 

Be tactful and observe. 

Even if you are too dumb to be wise and figure out how to frame what you feel, just be silent.

Cause you always have a chance to express how you feel, but you can never retract what you said.

So when someone enters your Cafe Caffeine, its your call to decide whether they will receive their caffeine that makes their soul feel warm, or will their soul feel cold?

The choice is and has always been: YOURS.